Any tips on how do you deal with friends and family who dont get your schedule?

I am getting really realy tired of people acting like i just “sleep all day.” so bad, they will call at noon and get annoyed when I dont answer or they plan stuff at 6 pm and act surprised I cant go. how do you explain night shift life without sounding defensive? or do you just stop trying? badly wanna hear ur thoughts 'bout on this one, tysm!