Update after 2 months since I cut off my friend group after WILD accusations

TLDR : friend falsely accused me of forcing him to jerk off together , group abandoned me for 45 days. Update : most still silent, some apologized. Ella is trying but stays friends with those who ignore me. Rafida insulted me then played victim. Zara acknowledged but went silent. Maya apologized properly. Unfollowed most, feel lighter. Still unsure about Ella and how to interpret everyone's silence.

Here’s the previous part but I’ll put a quick catch up anyway :

https://www.reddit.com/r/askgaybros/s/aeTkDjezrm

So basically my (20M) best friend of 12 years "Nick" (20M) initiated sexual stuff twice, then told our friend group I pressured him. They never asked for my side. They spread his version in the group, and the whole group went silent on me for 45 days. During that time I was suicidal, relapsed into SH and ED, and failed exams. No one checked on me for weeks. Later I found out Nick had done similar stuff to another girl friend before who rejected his advances (initiating then playing victim). Some people knew this pattern but stayed silent.

What happened since my last post :

I’ll start with Ella: We've had multiple long calls. She admitted they handled it badly and shared my full version of events with the whole group.

She's been the only one actively trying to understand and repair things. She recently told me she plans to talk to Nick directly, confront him with my version, and see how he reacts. She's also been transparent about where she stands : she believes my intentions were good but still struggles with completely dismissing Nick's experience because he seems genuinely convinced of his version. I understand her dilemma but it still hurts that she can't fully take my side. She remains close with people who got my version weeks ago and said nothing, she’s still trying to defend their behaviour because “it’s pointless to villainise them“. That's hard to accept.

Secondly, Rachel (the one who insulted me) : for context we’ve been friends for 11 years.

We had a long text conversation in January. I discovered that while we were texting she was sending screenshots of the chat to Ella (the same thing I was already blaming her for). She said that she thought she asked for my side before judging me and that I confirmed what Nick said but it NEVER HAPPENED she made it up. But instead of just apologizing, she spent most of the conversation justifying herself, minimizing, and eventually called me "mean" "cruel" and "harsh" for confronting her. She brought up a story from high school (5 years ago) to deflect. At the end of the conversation, I ended up apologizing to her, even though I was the one who had been wronged. She hasn't reached out since, even after getting my full version through Ella. I've unfollowed her everywhere.

Then there’s Zara who recognized her cowardice and apologized after ghosting for a month when I wanted to speak with her. But she left my last message on "seen" for 15 days after I proposed we meet to talk. I took that as a response and unfollowed her too. Silence after acknowledgment is still silence.

Other people from the group got my full version weeks ago through Ella. Nothing. No message, no apology, no acknowledgment. I've unfollowed them all. I’ve heard through Ella that some think that our two pov can be true at the same time (like wtf??).

Finally there’s Maya (knew her since middle school but saw her only twice in two years). The day Ella shared my side of the story, Maya sent a clear message acknowledging she was a bad friend, that she should have come to me directly, and apologized without conditions. I thanked her, told her I had already forgiven everyone for my own peace, but that I wasn't sure what the future holds. She's the only one I still follow with Ella.

Where I'm at now :

I feel lighter. The unfollowing was freeing. I know who these people are now. I'm not angry, just at peace. I've rebuilt with new friends and am focusing on my health.

But I still have questions :

1. For those who got my full story weeks ago and said nothing : is their silence a response ? Should I interpret it as them choosing Nick's side ?
2. Ella is trying, but she remains friends with people who ignore me. Can I really rebuild a friendship with someone who stays close to those who abandoned me ?

Rachel

1. called me mean for confronting her, and I ended up apologizing. Was I wrong to confront her ? How do you deal with someone who plays the victim when you call them out ?

3. "Zara" acknowledged her cowardice but then went silent. Is acknowledgment without action worth anything

5..

1. Maya apologized properly but hasn't reached out since. Is it on her to make the next move, or should I ?

3. How do you know when someone's efforts to repair are genuine, and when they're just trying to ease their own guilt ?

5. Nick still maintains his version. Ella wants to talk to him to confront him with my story. Is that a good idea ? Could it backfire ?

7. At what point does "not choosing sides" become choosing the side of the people who hurt you ?

Thanks for reading. Any perspective helps.