Boyfriend chose friends over me on my birthday and I’m really hurt — am I overreacting?

Hi everyone, I just want some outside opinions because I’m feeling really upset and confused about this situation.

So today was my birthday, and I kind of expected my boyfriend to want to spend time with me. I’m not saying the whole day had to revolve around me, but I thought we’d at least talk more or see each other for a bit. Instead, we mostly just texted, and we only talked for about the last 20 minutes of my birthday.

Another thing that really hurt is that we didn’t see each other at all. Earlier, he had plans to hang out with his friends. I told him it was okay, but honestly it wasn’t really okay (I just said that because I could tell he wanted to see them.)

Before those plans even happened, when I asked if he wanted to hang out with me, he was already hesitant because of money. That hurt a bit, but I tried to understand. But then after his plans with them came up, he seemed even more unsure about seeing me, and that’s when it started to really hurt.

There’s also something he’s said to me before that stuck with me. In the past, he told me that if I ask about doing something, it probably means I want to do it, even if I say “it’s okay” later. So in this situation, I kind of felt like the same thing applied… like if he was considering seeing them and asking about it, it probably meant he wanted to go.

When I asked him what he wanted to do, I think deep down I wanted him to choose me. It was my birthday, and I wanted him to say something like, “No, it’s your birthday, I’m spending it with you.” But instead he kept hesitating and asking if I was sure it was okay.

In the end, he chose to hang out with them.

What really hurts is that he spent almost 5 hours with them today, while I only got about 20 minutes of talking with him on my birthday. It feels like he traded seeing me for them, and that’s honestly devastating to think about.

so i’m just wondering if i am overreacting to those not?