What exactly goes through your mind when you decide to have a biological child? Do you think about the next 18–25+ years in that moment?

I'm genuinely curious and asking this with zero judgment. I just truly don't understand the thought process from the inside.

When you make the decision to have a biological child, what is *actually* going through your mind? Are you thinking about how you're going to raise them for the next 18 to 25 years, and honestly, beyond that too? Are you picturing a specific outcome or version of this person? Is it emotional, instinctive, practical? Some mix of all of it?

I've asked this before and the only person who ever gave me a real answer was a girl who said she wanted kids but even she wanted to adopt, not give birth, because she was anti-natalist about bringing a new life into the world.

I'm anti-natalist myself, and I've genuinely never felt that pull or biological urge. I don't say that to be provocative, it just means I have a real blind spot here. I can't imagine what it feels like from the inside when someone *does* want to give birth to a new life.

So if you've been there: what was it? What exactly were you thinking or feeling? What was the desire, the image, the reason? I'm not here to debate, I just want to actually understand what goes through someone's mind in that moment or leading up to it.