Grew Apart?

I’d love to hear stories about people who got married young (18-21 ish), had kids, grew and changed into completely different people than your spouse and ultimately decided to split?

How did you come to the decision, especially with kids? When nothing was “WRONG”? Just after ten years and getting married basically as a child and growing up/wanting different things than you did at 19/20…. Realizing how incompatible you are with your spouse? You love them, but not in love with them…. They’re more like a friend or a family member. We both feel the same way / but we’re scared to make a rash decision and regret it. We don’t want our kids to have a broken home - so we’ve been “trying” for a while. I think it’d be amicable- but again, don’t want to regret anything.