Hi!

Please help and type me.

Disclaimer: English is not my first language, but I tried my best!

Depending on what test I take, I usually get an Enneagram that contains 9, 2 or 3, sometimes 1.  Mostly 2w3.

I sometimes feel like an INTP trapped inside an INFJ.

I took the first test twice with some time in between. 

When taking a look at the 16personalities website and the strengths and weaknesses of INTP and INFJ, this is how I see myself:

# INTP Strengths

\* 1. Analytical – People with the INTP personality type (Logicians) analyze everything that they come across. This gives them a knack for spotting unexpected patterns and connections that other personalities might overlook.

**-> Yes, it’s one of my main traits. I’m good at analysing systems, making connections and drawing conclusions.** 

\* 2. Original – Thanks to their unrelenting imagination, these personalities can come up with creative, counterintuitive ideas that wouldn’t occur to most people. Not all of these ideas are feasible, of course, but INTPs’ willingness to think outside the box can produce remarkable innovations.

**-> I’m honestly not sure if it fits me. I’m able to think outside the box and my ideas are often innovative, but it’s not my main strength and nothing I’m exceptional at. Most of my ideas are based on my previous analyses.**

\* 3. Open-Minded – INTPs are driven by curiosity and an intense desire to learn. As they learn, they’re rarely afraid to shift their perspective – even in matters of politics, religion, and philosophy. People with this personality type tend to be receptive to new ideas, as long as those ideas are something that they connect with on an intellectual level.

**-> Absolutely. Very much me. But I sometimes struggle a little when I’m forced to explore something new. I’m open to nearly everything I stumble upon on my own, but if somebody \*wants\* me to change my perspective, I am sceptical.** 

\* 4. Curious – These personalities are always casting about for new things to learn about. One week, they might be obsessed with geophysics, and the next, they might lose themselves in videos about guitar building. When inspiration strikes, INTPs go all in on their newfound interest, learning everything that they can.

**-> Yes. I hyperfixate on things until I find something more interesting. It’s a never ending cycle…** 😭

\* 5. Honest – INTPs care about the truth. Rather than taking comfort in ideology or received ideas, they want to understand what’s really going on beneath the surface of things. As a result, they can be relied upon to combat bias and misinformation even when it isn’t easy to do so – and they expect other people to be honest with them in return.

**-> Yes. Truth matters a lot to me and coming closer to the answers of metaphysical questions is one or even THE thing I view as my goal in life.**

**I despise indifferentism and people telling me that something is “not true to them” that seems very much objective and obvious to me.**

**It might be the only thing that drives me crazy or even makes me angry.** 

# INTP Weaknesses

\* 6. Disconnected – INTP personalities can get lost in their own train of thought even when they’re with other people. After finally resurfacing with something to say, they may find that the conversation has moved on without them. This can cause people with this personality type to feel disconnected from others, especially in large social gatherings.

**-> Yes, happens often to me. I prefer 1-to-1-conversations and hate talking in groups.**

\* 7. Insensitive – INTPs see rationality as the key to a better, happier world. At times, they may underestimate the importance of such irrational values as emotion, compassion, etiquette, and tradition. As a result, these personalities may inadvertently come across as insensitive or unkind even though their intentions are generally good.

**-> Happens, but only in specific situations. See more below…**

\* Dissatisfied – People with this personality type can’t help but imagine how things could be better than they already are. INTPs are constantly on the lookout for problems to solve, topics to learn, and new ways to approach things. Taken too far, this mindset can become overwhelming, with these personalities constantly trying to reinvent the wheel rather than reliably addressing their needs and responsibilities.

**-> I’m not particularly dissatisfied but I’m always looking for a way to achieve greater things and stand out.** 

\* Overthinkers – INTPs’ minds are ceaselessly active, toiling away even when they’re not consciously thinking. While their rapid-fire thoughts can be beneficial at times, they can also cause them to overthink and fall prey to analysis paralysis. When this occurs, INTPs can struggle to reach a decision or take action because they’re too caught up in considering every possible outcome or angle.

**-> I’m a horrible overthinker**

\* Impatient – INTP personalities take pride in their knowledge and in sharing their ideas. When it comes to explaining their rationale, however, they aren’t always patient. If their conversation partner doesn’t follow along or seem sufficiently interested, they may give up with a dismissive “never mind.”

**-> Not really, I love sharing knowledge and if I’m too enthusiastic about it, it might happen that I’m impatient. But I generally want to share the joy I find in knowledge and try to explain things in a way others understand it, based on their needs. But yes, I also take pride in explaining things. I’m just more proud when I manage to explain something in a fitting way.**

# INFJ Strengths

\* Insightful – People with the INFJ personality type (Advocates) know all too well that appearances can be misleading. These personalities strive to move beyond superficiality and seek out the deeper truths in life. This can give them an almost uncanny ability to understand people’s true motivations, feelings, and needs.

**-> Yes, I often sometimes even what people feel like before they figure it out themselves. I somehow find patterns in their personality and foresee what’s going to happen next.**

\* Principled – INFJs tend to have strong beliefs and values, particularly when it comes to matters of ethics. They consider lying to be morally wrong, and they make a concerted effort to not deceive others – even when they could directly benefit from doing so. In fact, they are the least likely personality type to say they sometimes take advantage of other people.

**-> I don’t enjoy benefiting from others but when I can take advantage while not harming someone, I’ll do it.** 

\* Passionate – INFJ personalities crave a sense of purpose in life. Rather than living on autopilot or sticking to the status quo, they want to chase after their dreams. This isn’t a personality type that shies away from shooting for the stars – they are energized and impassioned by the beauty of their visions for the future.

**-> Yes, very much. But I lack the discipline for really chasing my dreams.** 

\* Altruistic – People with this personality type aren’t happy to succeed at another person’s expense. INFJs want to use their strengths for the greater good, and they rarely lose sight of how their words and actions might affect others. In their heart of hearts, they want to make the world a better place, starting with the people around them.

**-> I act altruistically and often get told (by my family and therapist) that I need to care for my own needs first. But I wouldn’t say that altruism is an ideal that is rooted in my heart or something I find noble. I’s never encourage someone to overstep their own boundaries for the sake of altruism.**

**It’s rather that harmony is very important to me and I rather lose myself than risking that the harmony is gone.**

**But on the other hand, helping others really makes me happy and is kind of my love language.** 

\* Creative – INFJ personalities aren’t exactly like everyone else – and that’s a wonderful thing. They embrace their creative side, always on the lookout for opportunities to express themselves and think outside the box.

**-> I am creative and good at drawing, painting, designing, etc. but I’m not full of ideas.** 

# INFJ Weaknesses

\* Sensitive to Criticism – INFJs are often averse to criticism, especially if they believe that someone is challenging their most cherished principles or values. When it comes to the issues that are near and dear to them, people with this personality type can become defensive, dismissive, or angry.

**-> Yes, I feel often attacked and called out when people criticise me, because most times I already know my mistake and hope that nobody noticed. I try to overplay it tho.**

\* Reluctant to Open Up – INFJ personalities value honesty and authenticity, but they’re also private. They may find it difficult to open up and be vulnerable about their struggles, not wanting to burden someone else with their issues. Unfortunately, when they don’t ask for help, they may inadvertently hold themselves back or create distance in their relationships.

**-> I find it easy to open up and need it sometimes, but I feel bad and like a burden every single time.**

\* Perfectionistic – These visionary personalities are all but defined by idealism. While this is a wonderful quality in many ways, it doesn’t always leave room for the messiness of real life. INFJs might find it difficult to appreciate their jobs, living situations, or relationships if they’re continually fixating on imperfections and wondering whether they should be looking for something better.

**-> I’m perfectionistic and often don’t even start something because I doubt from the beginning that I could do it perfectly (e.g. because of lack of time), so I rather don’t do it at all.**

\* Avoiding the Ordinary – INFJs yearn to do extraordinary things with their lives. But it’s hard to achieve anything extraordinary without breaking it down into small, manageable steps. Unless they translate their dreams into everyday routines and to-do lists, they may struggle to turn their grand visions into reality.

**-> One of my biggest traits!!**

\* Prone to Burnout – INFJs’ perfectionism and reserve leave them with few options for letting off steam. People with this personality type can exhaust themselves if they don’t balance their drive to help others with necessary self-care and rest.

**-> Yes, this also happens to me.**

# Important:

I think what’s most confusing to me is that I strive for harmony, ignore my own needs and do everything to satisfy others. I don’t fight for being right if I find out I was wrong, but I’m very much embarrassed when I’m wrong. But if it’s about what I believe to be true and existential, I start fighting and won’t end the discussion, even if the person hates me afterwards. My intention isn’t being always right and if someone can prove that I’m wrong, I accept it nearly immediately, but I can’t stand people thinking their right even though I can literally prove with facts that they’re wrong. 

But, as I said, otherwise I’m not very demanding, domineering or egocentric.

I grew up with a narcissistic mother and my role in our family is to be the person who balances everything out and tries to avoid conflicts. I try to manage everyone’s needs and ignore my own ones so everyone else is happy, since harmony is way more important to me than my boundaries.

I sometimes feel like an INTP who’s acting like an INFJ lol. 

# Little Extra:

**Here are some sentences I can identify with:**

*When I really get involved in an intellectual problem that stimulates me, I tend to detach from my emotions*

*I am uncomfortable when people want an emotional response from me.*

*Sometimes I have overextended myself in trying to help people*

*I am competitive and ambitious, but I do not think of myself as cut throat.*

*It would be the worst thing to be seen by others as a loser.*

*I'm a big procrastinator.*

*I almost never lose control of myself.*

*I accumulate lots of knowledge to counteract my lack of self-confidence.*

*Others need my assistance much more than I need theirs.*

*I don't let it show, but if I'm with someone who is as unique as I am, I get a bit jealous.*

*It's hard to stay passionate and focused.*

*Even if I don't have it all together, at least I'm going to seem to have it all together.*

*Sometimes I don't know what I'm feeling until I've had a chance to think about it.*

*My life has been permeated by a sense of longing.*

*I see all points of view when there is a dispute, so it's hard for me to take a side.*

*I sometimes wish people would take care of me for a change.*

Help me! INTP? INFJ?