dating advice

• We dated for about 2.5–3 months.

• The connection was intense from the beginning (long first date, strong chemistry, deep conversations).

• She described feeling safe with me and said she loved me multiple times.

• She has a pattern of emotional intensity and push–pull behavior (withdraw → reconnect → withdraw).

• She became pregnant early on.

• She panicked about career, stability, and the future.

• I was supportive and offered to take responsibility.

• She eventually went to Spain and terminated the pregnancy.

• Around this time, she found out I have a child I hadn’t disclosed earlier.

• She framed this as a major breach of trust.

• She ended the relationship saying:

• I’m not honest.

• I didn’t protect her.

• I caused stress and anxiety.

• She can’t trust me.

• She unfollowed me on Instagram but didn’t block on either WhatsApp.

• I sent her €3,000 to help financially after the abortion.

• I’m heartbroken, grieving the relationship and the unborn child.

• I’ve experienced:

• Intense sadness

• Emptiness

• Revisiting memory locations

• I still miss her deeply.

• Part of me hopes she comes back.

• Part of me fears the same unstable cycle repeating.

• I’m trying to make strategic life decisions (Rome vs U.S., apartment renewal) without letting emotions dictate them.

• Core pain right now: silence and loneliness.

She ended up things through text…. What do you think