Taurus (36f)4 months into dating a Sag (44 M) and he's so confusing

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when we first met it felt like an instant connection. I felt very comfortable around him. We both love being outside in the woods both focused on health and a similar sense of humor (even though I'm a bit more crass lol)

In the beginning he was so sweet always showering me with compliments and showing affection. He has been persistent about setting down together. He has spots all over his house for me to store my things and wants me to help decorate his house with things that are my style. All of that is A LOT and waaaay too fast for me but when I brought that up he completely shut down.

He doesn't invite me over as much or feed me compliments. Will show affection only when I initiate ( except sexually, he's still very much initiates sex). Very quick kisses and short hugs. it seemed like he was kind of over it so I started pulling back but every time I pull back he comes at me full force again until we get comfortable and then the cycle starts all over again. Why is he doing that lol!

It also feels like I'm the Sag and he's the Taurus at times. I love to travel and be spontaneous. While he's kind of a tired homebody that gives into shopping therapy (high end things). What's happening I can't read the situation anymore. Is this a game or a control thing?

I would love to hear opinions or stories about other Sag Taurus relationships.