should i join and a few more questions

so im 21, and im a junior in college, and ive had two shoulder surgeries. i’m debating taking a year off from school and going to basic and then tech school. i would want to stay in the reserves and not go active because i have a great civilian job lined up at home and im engaged and wouldn’t want to make my wife, who is a PA leave her job. i’m all for deployment myself, but my mother is a dessert storm vet who was in the national guard. she is completely against me serving due to the things she saw and what happened to her (she has ptsd). is there a job i could do that has a low deployment rate and/or wouldn’t put in harms way? i’m not a coward i just don’t want to put that stress on my family. is there any specific job where if u do get deployed, i would stay on the mainland in base and not get reclassed? and if anyone had any advice let me know :)