I hope my career trajectory isnt ruined

Career/Education

Im an engineer F(34)

I have had an amazing career doing amazing work all around the country.

I have been in heavy civil designing post Katrina flood walls and dams

I have been a structural lead leading 20m+ jobs and I have also been in between a rock and a hard place

I recently changed jobs and industries due to....family planning. Traveling all the time and being told I was struggling with infertility was a blow to my brain.

So I took a job locally and now manage civil/Structural coordination with utilities.

What is didnt know is that working for a huge utility is super corporate

Its nothing like my last job and thats all good but:

  1. My manager doesnt want me moving positions internally. Like he freaked out when I presented another position. (This being said I have been there for 7 months and they dont want people moving until after a 1 year)

​2. Even though I still do work on the side I am so fucking bored at my job

  1. I also feel like I have to take my fertility seriously if that is also a priority in my life. This job isn't horrible. And pay is 150k a year. I just need to chill maybe?

I am looking for some advice or similar stories as to how others navigated this

Thanks in advance

Am I doomed? I know that sounds silly but I just dont want to be left behind.

The good thing out of this is I actually ahve time to study for my PE and finish my thesis so thats where my focus will be.

Posted Mar 5, 2026, 2:38 AM UTC

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