How would you feel if you're daughter had mostly guy friends?
I'm a 17 year old girl. My mom's very upset over this and thinks I'm ruining my reputation or that somehow I want to date 10 dudes at the same time and thats why I hang out with them. I have a few girl friends too but during lunch I hang out with my friend group who are all guys. We relate over different things because a lot of them take the same classes as me or want to go into the same major and we have the same sense of humor. I'm also a pretty masculine girl, but my mom disagrees even though there are so many pictures of me as a kid and even now dressing up like a guy and posing like a guy would, and I'm currently in a phase where I'm trying to get buff and trying to get into boxing (I know girls can do that too.. but its more traditionally masculine so since she's traditional-thinking she should know I'm a masculine girl but doesn't for some reason).
I'm not transgender or anything, but I AM a lesbian (which my mom doesn't know about and never will because she's homophobic due to her culture so I'm not telling her).
Also my parents are pretty controlling over my life because they're immigrants and also I'm an only-child plus we're asian..
So yeah how would you feel if your daughter told you she hangs out with a bunch of dudes at school? Also she got mad so I told her "I'm basically a guy though so its not weird" and she got even more mad and said that I shouldn't say that ever again.
Also we saw one of my (guy) friends when she came to pick me up and he got into this super cool car and I was like "oh thats my friend" and my mom made it so weird she was like "guys with cars like that are players you know..." like bro okay? I would never date that kid.. so I said "oh yeah haha we make fun of him for that a lot" just so she could understand I would never ever like any of my friends romantically but idk shes not convinced
How should I frame it to her, considering she's very strict and kind of traditional compared to American parents, so she wouldn't get mad from now on?
PS: also I have straight As and on track to get into a good university, plus I've never done anything reckless in my life because I don't leave my room since I'm studying a lot, so who knows why she thinks I would start doing weird stuff now? I've never been boy crazy either and I've complained to her about how disgusting it is when guys try to flirt with me and I just walk away
Posted Mar 5, 2026, 2:42 AM UTC