is there a way to use hinge in a non soul crushing way

esp as a woman, it feels like its set up for u to fail. maybe i am too much of a lover at heart to do the hookup thing. im not expecting to get married but the idea of a guy talking to other women and seeing me as just another option is humiliating. why would you ever do it if not to use the other person? and even if u psyop yourself into thinking that hooking up is good actually, aren’t you just passing the buck to the other party? what am i missing here

fwiw ive dated before just not complete strangers

- Confused Zoomer (21F)