On Monday, my husband came home from work early because he wasn’t feeling well and I tiptoed around the house to be respectful while working from home. When he woke up, I made dinner and he locked himself in the bathroom for one of his multiple daily 45min bathroom trips. I made tacos and he came out of the bathroom. The first thing he did was  say “you don’t have taco sauce?“ All exasperated. We sat down to dinner and he says “this tastes salty” while staring at his phone. I finished and left the table without saying anything. It has become a regular thing that he just criticizes dinner, maybe after eating he will thank me but he ALWAYS leads with complaints. 

He tells me he will clean the tub out (honestly it’s already pretty clean and 10000x better than the way he lived) for me to take a bath, I said okay, thanked him profusely for doing it and took a bath. As I was getting dried off he came in and was actually annoyed and said “I thought you were going to take a shower after and I was going to join you” and then got in the shower, clearly upset with me. I literally never shower after a bath, and frankly I had already showered that day and was taking a bath for relaxation. I assumed it was making up for him telling me NOT to take a bath the other night for my sore muscles because he would massage me (which lasted for 5 minutes and resulted in sex without satisfaction for me but of course I said nothing unkind about that) 

When I left the bathroom he texted me something about a part to a truck from the shower, I read and responded to it kindly and put the phone down and got dressed. I picked my phone back up 13 minutes later and I was in TROUBLE. He forgot a towel when he got in the shower and texted me to bring him one. 

some things to note:

  
the bathroom is literally directly across the hall from the linen closet

the bathroom has a nice hair dryer that will dry your whole body in like 20 seconds, I use it all the time when I forget a towel. 

the bedroom is close enough for you to just shout my name if you don’t see me check my texts 

he did not choose to call. 

Please see the text exchange. When he came in the room he was MAD. Firing off personal insults (I’m having an issue with my son, he’s about to be kicked out of the house over getting a girl pregnant and not getting a better job to accommodate it and earlier in the day he refused to answer me about contacting the mother of his baby, this situation is extremely stressful to me and deeply emotional) he immediately fires into “you don’t answer your phone no wonder your kids ignore you, they learned this from you” and I was like.. are you being serious? over a missed text and a towel??? He calls me a bitch, tells me I’m “the only one allowed to be upset” and when I get up to walk away from the conversation he throws a pillow at me and tells me to go sleep on the floor. 

so I’ve slept on the couch for three days now and honestly, I think my feelings are changing about him. He told me “I win” and to come back to bed but he doesn’t acknowledge his behavior in any way. 

am I overreacting for moving to the couch after such a disgusting outburst? I’ve already had talks with him about calling me names and clearly it’s just getting more casual that such a nothing situation would result in being called names after a day of me being considerate to him and shit on every time we interact. 

AIO by moving to the couch after a fight over a missed text