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Anyone else racially ambiguous and constantly have people try to guess your race?

Rant

For context, my mother is German mixed with Spanish and my dad is Caribbean. I have black/ambigious features but my skin is quite pale.

People that I don’t know often ask what race I am but they ask it in a very ignorant way, they’ll ask “Where are you from” and I will say “Britain”. They’ll freeze for a second, shake their head and say “No, where are you from FROM”. I have to then say “You mean my ethnicity?” And they’ll say yes. Do people not know the difference between nationality and ethnicity? It wouldn’t annoy so much if it didn’t happen on such a common occurrence.

Another thing that really annoys me is people assuming you’re a certain race and begin speaking to you in that language or they’ll do a pop quiz of all the countries. People have genuinely guessed almost every country, I’ve even had people ask me if I’m Chinese and been told I look ‘Japanesey’.

Does anybody else who’s mixed race or racially ambiguous deal with this constantly?

Posted Mar 5, 2026, 11:45 AM UTC

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