I am asking yall because I dont know who else to ask T~T

Okay, so you know hating men and stuff is pretty usual here. No this is not a post against it or anything. Just that, still being pre transition, those generalizations really get into me. I get so defensive and they sometimes keep me up at night crying.

I usually cope thinking that I am not a boy so they aren't targeted at me. But I can't help thinking that what if I am the same me but a boy ?

So, how should I cope with it ?

Also, is it normal for a trans girl to feel defensive about it or is it a sign I am not really a girl ? T~T