Is this too much sex talk?
For context, I’m 22F. I’ve only had intercourse with two people, but I’ve done oral or other things with about six or seven others (not including the two I slept with). I don’t have sex very often, but I recently started having sex again with someone and it’s been great.
The guy I’ve been hooking up with and I text every day, often about sex, and I like it. I’ve also been sending him nudes. At the same time, I’ve been talking in very explicit detail, book level length with another guy who’s engaged but in an open relationship. (They are in an open relationship, his finance has given us consent to text like this) We’ve been doing this for years since he doesn’t live here, so we never had the chance to actually hook up. I enjoy talking to him too.
Recently, for the first time, I sent a guy who goes to my university a sexy photo for money. Before that he would sometimes just send me money anyway, but one night I was horny and also wanted the extra cash, so I sent him a photo of me arching my back nothing too crazy for $120. I felt pretty fine about it. I also have a “pay pig” who sends me money for degrading texts. Before he’d just send money hoping I’d reply, which I rarely did, but lately I’ve been responding and playing along a bit. I feel a little weird about it, but it’s basically free money for a few messages.
The thing that’s starting to bother me is Snapchat and texting in general. When I post a photo, most responses from men are things like asking explicit sexual questions or asking if I have an OnlyFans. Sometimes I’ll be texting a guy I thought seemed nice, and the conversation quickly turns sexual with questions about whether I’m “a freak,” things like that. It just feels like almost every conversation I have with a guy becomes about sex.
I’ve even tried engaging in sex talk with some guys at my college because I didn’t want to just be hooking up with one person. But lately it’s making me question things. I like sex and I enjoy sexual conversations, but I’m starting to feel like a “whore.” It sometimes feels like my only purpose to the men around me is to sexually please them.
So I’m wondering: is this a normal amount of sexual conversation and interaction, or am I overdoing it? I enjoy sex, but I’m starting to question whether this is all men see me as, and whether that’s all I’m worth. Am I overreacting, or is this actually something I should rethink?
Posted Mar 5, 2026, 4:45 PM UTC