(24/F) My BF (23/M) is not ready to make active effort towards having deep conversations and I’m considering breaking up

I (F/24) and BF (M/23) our early-mid 20s in an LDR. we know each other since 2 years and have been dating around 1.5 years (a good amount of time we are in same town). we started off on an amazing note - HOURS of talking, going on dates and great chemistry; we didn’t ever have much in common but we really used to talk and get to know each other very well.

At some point, life caught up and things turn calm for us - which was nice - even though we talked much less.

My boyfriend used to be very active and curious about my thoughts and my opinions during the get to know phase.

However, as relationship progressed, his curiosity and wish to have deeper or even insightful conversations went away. I brought it up twice but there was not any much effort from his end.

He says these conversations should happen organically and not be manufactured. I tried on my end to initiate such conversations but even during them it’s me talking and asking him questions and telling him what I feel, but he doesn’t really ask me much even.

I feel such conversations make me feel connected with my partner on deeper level. I understand that it’s not possible to have these on high frequency but if I don’t initiate these conversations we go weeks to months without having such talk.

He said this is how he is and i should consider whether this relationship is for me. I’m hence considering to end the relationship since my BF response indicates this issue is something yaar he won’t be making an effort to do change or make it better

Question: Do you think it’s a silly reason to break up with someone and I should adjust?

Im a beginner to relationships so I don’t have confidence on whether what i decide is right for me

TLDR; my BF does not value deeper conversations as much as I do and neither initiates and takes much step towards having or continuing a deeper Conversation (which is important to me). He is not willing to make an effort towards the same as he likes such conversations organic. He has asked me whether I want to reconsider the relationship and I don’t know what’s right to do

Posted Mar 5, 2026, 4:49 PM UTC

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