How do you stay safe in the heat of the moment?

Hi, i'm 30f and my husband is also 30.

We have been swinging, hotwifing for about 12 years now. Basically ever since we've been married. Give or take a few months.

We are full time travelers so we meet A LOT of new people. Our jam is also hooking up with strangers. We try to stay as safe as possible, but in the heat of the moment my husband as well as myself seem to abandon our principles more often than not.

I either pull off the condom mid fuck or we don't even use one to begin with. We always say we rely on each other to stay safe but we keep failing at it.

I suppose everyone kind of agrees that fucking without a condom just is better. The danger of doing it raw, the thrill of my partner being a stranger. The thrill of letting him cum inside me. Just writing this down i'm starting to feel a little aroused already.

Anyone have any advice or tips?