Success so far

I have previously posted here a couple of times. One of my posts is this

https://www.reddit.com/r/surrendered_wife/comments/1rcnq4a/my_husband_says_he_is_done_and_has_nothing_to_give/

I have been practicing the skills heavily. And I am a big reader so I have added a few skills of my own from different books. Everything combined is working very very well.

Some additional skills are, super soft voice even in irritation, better self identity due to positive affirmations, no complaining, no explaining, smiling as much as I can, being rejection proof, detaching from the outcome.

My husband, although still not warm, is warming up by 0.001% every day. Here is an example (also an example of when "I would love it if" and "I hear you" dont work).

I had an issue with my insurance. I asked him what do I do. He became irritated and said do whatever you want. I took a slow calm breath before continuing in my SUPER soft voice, "I guess what I was hoping for was what would you do if you were in my place" (I tried one last time knowing if he didn't respond, I would drop it). And he immediately softened and responded calmly.

I guess this post is meant to remind myself and everyone else who is struggling to keep going. We got this!