I keep being pressured to eat and it's not helping

I feel like my friends and family think they're doing the right thing when they drop off food or leave it on my shelf in the fridge.

Maybe I have oppositional defiance disorder or something but it's like the more they want me to eat it the less likely it is that I will.

If I am going to eat something substantial I think about it for days in advance. I try and get excited for it and sort of, prepare accordingly.

It's so hard to explain this without appearing ungrateful for the food.

Is this issue normal for people with EDs?