Dating as a fence sitter

I currently am a fence sitter in regards to having children.

I have put my dating life on hold for the past few years because of it, and have been really trying to soul search/figure this out during this interim.However , the time has gone by and I still feel like I’m in the same place.

I feel like I should inherently know by now especially at my age (30f), but I just feel truly overwhelmed with making up my mind on it.

I feel I am spinning my wheels and missing out on key years of my life that I should be dating / meeting people all because I’m held up over this.

People who are fence sitters, how do you approach dating / when this topic comes up?