Thinking about having a serious talk with my wife about our marriage

My wife and I have been married for about 5 years, and lately I’ve been thinking a lot about having a serious conversation with her about how I’ve been feeling in the marriage.

Over time I’ve started to feel really unhappy and honestly pretty disconnected. A big part of it is that I feel like a lot of the responsibility for the house falls on me — cleaning, organizing, and generally keeping things running. I don’t expect things to be perfectly 50/50 all the time, but it’s started to feel really unbalanced.

When the topic comes up, it sometimes turns into complaining or feeling like we’re competing about who does more rather than working together as a team, which just makes things more frustrating.

Another thing I’ve been struggling with is that I’ve started to feel less and less attracted to her, and I think some of that is tied to the resentment that’s been building. I don’t like feeling that way, but I want to be honest with myself about it.

Because of all of this, I’ve been thinking about sitting down with her and having a serious conversation before things get worse. I want to approach it calmly and respectfully, but also be honest about where I’m at emotionally.

For people who have been in similar situations:

•	How would you approach a conversation like this without it turning into an argument?

•	Is it a mistake to bring up the attraction issue, or should that wait until later?

•	Have you seen marriages recover after things get to this point?

I care about doing this the right way and not just letting resentment keep building. Any perspective or advice would really help

tl;dr Married 5 years and feeling increasingly unhappy in my marriage, going to talk to my wife