Social media influencers and war of genders

Assalamalaikum everyone. So like any other person I use social media and because I follow some scholars I started getting recommendations for more muslim influencer pages. In the last 5 years I have noticed a very disturbing pattern. Initially, these pages would talk about personal growth as a muslim, ibadah and azkar which is good. However, they have evolved into giving marital and life advice now which has resulted in gender wars.

In so many pages, I see it usually consists of hurting or manipulating your spouse, making them feel irreplacable or keeping them on toes. There is men and women, but mostly men saying its weak to consider your spouse's feelings before making a decision. Influencers are promoting and generalizing fiqh matters and talking about them with no credentials whatsoever. Some weaponize Islamic teachings against others. Personally, the way I have seen some men talk about muslim women on social media I don't understand if they actually dont realise they will have to answer about this on the Day of Judgement. I thought this would be on social media and no sane person actually follows this advice but unfortunately I have come across many people who do. Some have even broken their marriages because of this.

In conclusion, we need to learn the main sunnah akhlaq as the Prophet Muhammed (SAW) had the best akhlaq in the mankind. Whether you are a man or a woman, and have a good spouse or potential they are a blessing from Allah SWT. When you start treating each other well and go above and beyond for the sake of Allah, He will out barakah in your marriage. If you have disagreements learn to be respectful. Stop following influencers or even some scholars like a flock of sheep. It is okay to hold others accountable but in a respectful manner. Constantly learn Islam from the Quran and seerah. When you are choosing a spouse, choose one who can think for themselves.

Sorry for the long post. I am not the best writer but with everything happening around us I thought I should share this. JazakAllah khair.