A comprehensive list of all the times I was cucked in my last relationship.

I’m wondering how common is it for people you know to straight up try and cuck you? Because this happened in my last relationship. A lot.

For context me and her broke up over her cheating, but the list of dudes who slept with her behind my back (or at least tried) is pretty egregious. Here’s the final tally…that I know of.

- Male bestie. Was always a little weird with me. Got drunk and hooked up with her while I was out of town, about two years in to our relationship. I talked to the two of them on the phone and told them to have a good night about an hour before it happened. Proceeded to be my buddy for years after that.

- Old high school friends/FWB. Hooked up with her three times whenever she visited home, despite having met me prior.

- Another male mutual of ours. I went out of town and she “extensively” made out with him after a house party. Acted like a total dick to me afterwards and had me do personal favors like watching his dog and doing yardwork for his parents (??)

- Her family’s handyman/HVAC guy. I don’t think they ever actually hooked up, but he spent the entire five year span of our relationship texting her sexually explicit double entendres (he owns a snow plow business), all in between referring to her as “beautiful” and asking for photos of her in the shower. He would text things like that 10 minutes after me and him finished talking about whatever project he was working on around the house.

- The bartender at the Mexican restaurant down the street. He knew us both as regulars, and within a week of me leaving town convinced her to get a drink at a second location. He placed his hand on her leg and said “I really want to fuck you”. Still smiles in my face to this day because he doesn’t know that I know what happened.

- Another ex hookup of hers. I never met this guy personally, but he knew of my existence, and would regularly DM her saying they should meet up when I’m not around. They made explicit plans to hook up at least twice.

- I also met two other “friends” that she slept with before me and her met. Didn’t know about this until years later because she thought I would be weird about it.

There are more…I’m sure, but that’s what I was able to piece together from text messages and what she would admit to. I’m honestly not that upset by her behavior, because she’s just a ho and sometimes you wind up in a relationship with one of those. However I’m pretty disturbed that so many men would look me in the eye, act like my buddy, bang my girlfriend and then proceed to act like nothing happened. Is this how all guys are, or do I just give off some kind of vibe that screams “I’m a bitch, please have sex with my girlfriend”?