love vs L O V E in the Bridgerton universe

Hiya, I had a conversation with someone recently and I’m hoping to get an outside opinion.

My friend thinks that Marcus was a bit dismissive to end things with Violet since she has legitimate reasons to slow things down: John just died, 3 kids still need to be engaged and she’s already been a wife.

I disagreed. I think Bridgerton has this idea of your MATCH, the person you’re in L O V E with. Violet is the in-universe mouth piece for this. She’s always adamant that her kids have a L O V E match. How Bridgerton is built, when you’ve found “the one”, it’s instantaneous and nothing will stop you. She had that with Edmund, so although Marcus is nice, “tended her garden”, and they have great chemistry (maybe even love), the fact that she does want to slow down means they’re not meant to B E.

Honestly it feels like the show doesn’t believe that you can have two L O V E matches. Compare Fran and John to all the other couples. Everyone else has immediate emotional and physical chemistry, yet they show Fran not feeling that all the way. It’s more like love than L O V E. It’s also setting up the contrast she’ll experience with Michaela.

I would have liked to see someone have two L O V E’s but eh can’t change the past. I also think it’s kind of beautiful in a way, to have that one person who no one else can live up to.

Still I can be a bit stubborn with my opinions so I’m hoping to get someone else’s perspective. TIA!