I think her friends and tik-tok are planting seeds.

I (61 m) have been dating a lady (62 f) for about 9 months. She works primarily with women and has a good friends who lives out of state that she talks to at length 3-4 times a month. She is also obsessed with tik-tok.

So today we were texting back and forth most of the day. Something we did alot during the first 4-5 months of dating. Past 4-5 months it has slowed down markedly mostly because her work load has increased. I get that. But today was different. Started out with good banter like the beggining. She told me I was slow at work. I felt

Good because we were getting along like we used to. Joking amd being light in our conversation. Intold her something about my work day, I am changing work locations and was telling her how I was saying goodbyes to coworkers. Ahe was teasing me about it. I asked her if she was making fun of me in a playful way so I thought. She began to start airing grievances. Reminded me of the festvous episode of Seinfeld. She said she was airing feelings. I told her it felt like a list or grievancesdays it is . This has happened in the past and usually on on slow days at work or after one of her long conversations with her out of state friend who is single by the way. I make a conscious effort to hear her and correct what I can .

She also is addicted to self help gurus onTik-Tok. Everything from health advice to relationshipadvice. With the sudden turn in our conversation I cant help but rhink someone be it a co-worker, her friend or Tik-Tok had some influence. Am I overthinking this?