Struggling with frequent UTIs and can't find a source - Request for remedies and things to rule out.

AFAB mid 30s married to AMAB and currently monogamous.

I've gotten multiple treatments and diagnostics but a month or two it comes back. Always after I ovulate, usually closer to the end of my cycle. I don't struggle with dryness or any symptoms of perimenopause.

Doctors have tried:

• Confirmed they prescribed an antibiotic that the infections are not immune to

• Checked me for STIs

• Normal Pap

I have tried:

• D Manose (sp?) supplement, tried preemptive cystex when I anticipate I might get one

• Abstaining from sex during the impactful time and only having sex when he is clean and thoroughly rinsed, I reeeeally don't want to go without for a whole month.

• Switched to the gentlest soap, for both of us, and reminded him to rinse super thoroughly.

• Qutting coffee but when it didn't work I started again as long as I didn't have a UTI

-I don't drink, don't over eat, currently losing weight.

• Sex toys immaculate, no contact with the affected area

• Front to back wiping, cleaning thoroughly after poop, showering daily, fresh breathable pants/underwear daily, nakey sleeping and air drying. I don't use any products.

• Bidet made it worse.

• Can't have cranberry, it demolishes my guts like nothing else and then I'll have a profusely bleeding booty and a very sore bladder.

I plan to try:

• Laundry stripping, something I learned from cloth diapers, washing on high heat repeatedly to clean off any lingering bacteria

• Wet wipes?

-Quitting coffee more permanently

Do you have any recommendations? Things at home to rule out? Questions for my doctor?