This insight hurts

Just heard this one. Paraphrasing:

“A definitive symptom of childhood trauma is when we repeatedly try to get a difficult person to be good to us. Healing starts when we realize we are playing our life on hard mode for no reason; that is when we finally understand we can just stop that pattern.”

Ouch. That one is so true I can feel it cutting my bones! Wish I had heard it sooner so posting here. Something to remember for all of us in this sub. Certainly one I will be keeping handy.