39 [m4f] When you stop taking chances, you’ll stay where you sit. You won’t live any longer, but it will feel like it.

It’s not a cliche to use a song lyric as your opener if it’s a deep cut, right? If you don’t know, I won’t make you google, I’m big U2 fan. But I think it’s appropriate.

Hi! I'm here to find an online affair partner. But it's hard to dive straight into that, so first and foremost, I'm looking for a fun, friendly chat. It's rainy and I'm having a slow day at the office, and it would be nice to chase the doldrums away. Just a low stakes, no pressure chat, like two people meeting for coffee. Except I would order a Diet Coke.

Of course I want potential. But that will come on its own. In the meantime, I've got to attract someone to respond to this post. So a little about me, that I hope you like.

I have hobbies, I have interests, but it feels boring and cliche to just list them. So instead I'll say that I get lost in my head and try to capture my feelings with something tangible, and I work really hard on finding balance and inner peace. And I like to escape the real world sometimes.

I have a trick that gives me confidence. Like everyone, I have insecurities, but when they crop up I lean into them. I speak in public a lot, and when I do, I acknowledge them out loud. And then they lose their power, they become a joke, a punchline. And that ownership of them gives me confidence. It's how I'm writing this post.

I have a big heart. I'm aware that I have big feelings. Anger isn't one of them though, I've really let that go in my life. But kindness and empathy and vulnerability mean a lot to me. The women in my life call me a sweetheart, and I like that.

I can be really funny. I was the class clown growing up, but I don't seek attention that way anymore. It was immature. But I still love to make people laugh, in a natural way. I have a little bit of a quick wit, things come into my mind and I just say them. And in the moment they'll make you laugh, even if retrospectively they might not make sense. I do have a love for the absurd though. I love telling the moth joke at parties. You should look it up if you haven't. The longer I can drag it out, the better.

I have a really cool job, that means a lot to me. I get to put my values into action, and use my intellectual skills for what I believe is good. And that matters to me.

I promised myself that I wouldn't write a novel here, so I'll stop now. This is a little crazy, but I'm a little crazy, and I look forward to meeting you.