To the women who are exhausted from managing male egos while doing your actual job...I see you.

I've spent the last eight months watching women in tech describe the same problem over and over:

· The meeting where you make a point, no one responds, and three minutes later a man says the same thing and gets called brilliant. · The manager who only seems to hear you when you've dressed up, done your hair, performed "professional" in a way that makes him comfortable. · The performance review where you're told you need to be "more confident" while watching less competent men get promoted above you. · The weekly one-on-one that should be about your work but somehow always becomes about managing his mood, his ego, his reaction to things. · The energy drain of advocating for your team, for other women, for people of color and being told you're "too intense" or "difficult" while your male colleagues say the same things and get called leaders.

You're not asking for much. You just want to do good work, advocate for the people around you, and not spend half your mental energy navigating someone else's feelings.

I've been there. I've lived it. And I've spent a long time figuring out what actually works...not what the books say, not what HR says, but what actually moves the needle when you're dealing with someone who doesn't want to hear you.

I've started writing some of it down. Not a book. Not a course. Just the real moves...the scripts, the strategies, the patterns I've seen across dozens of women in similar situations.

If you're in the middle of it right now and need something more specific than a Reddit comment can hold, my DMs are open. No pressure. No pitch. Just a conversation if you need one.

And if you're not there yet, here's something you can use Monday morning for free:

The next time you get interrupted in a meeting, don't fight it in the moment. Instead, wait for a pause and say:

"I want to circle back to my original point before the interruption. I was saying [repeat your point briefly]. I'd like to finish that thought."

It's calm. It's professional. And it names what happened without starting a war. Most men don't even realize they're doing it until someone reflects it back to them.

That's one move. If that lands, you know where to find me.