How to turn my husband on more?

I actually feel so silly making this post but I need to hear from the men of the world.

My husband and I have been married for 5 years and have two young kids. Life is hectic and busy and by the end of the day we are both so tired. We love each other deeply, but he’s expressed he doesn’t want sex to feel like a chore something that just “ticks the box” at night times. And because of that I feel like he’s been initiating a bit less and I’m trying to do more to make sex intentional and more meaningful between us.

I would say we both have high sex drives, but not having sex as much as we’d like because of our demanding lives. His love language is not physical touch and expressed feeling “smothered” when I try to straddle on top to (attempt) to turn him on. He Normally gets turned on by touching and feeling me, not the other way around.

So what are things I could do that would help bring some drive back into the bedroom and initiate sex? (And yes I have just straight up asked him. He says he’s “not sure”