AITAH for being mad at my boyfriend for kicking me out because my much needed nap was “too long” and I missed dinner?
Question is the tldr version lol. We are gay and there is an age gap between us. I do not feel like disclosing it because I think that’s besides the point. Slept over the previous night at my current boyfriend’s place that he is moving out of in a week to his old house he remodeled. We woke up and got breakfast at McDonalds (I paid) and then went over to the new house to clean up for a few hours. We then went and got groceries for an hour or so and then went back to his place. At that point, I was honestly tired and needed to rest and had been battling a cluster migraine for the past day. He sort of forced me to help prep dinner which I had no problem with and then he said go lay down and I’ll wake you up when it’s ready.
I went to lay down, it took me a big longer than I thought to fall asleep and so I put a podcast on. He woke me up shortly after I fell asleep saying dinner was ready, I told him I needed some more time to sleep, I was very groggy. He then woke me up like maybe 45 min/hour later, matter-of-factly saying I needed to leave because he was mad at me that I skipped dinner. I was still trying to wake up and come to my senses, and being bombarded by being kicked out was just so out of the realm of the possibility when I woke up I didn’t even know what to say.
He said in his household, no matter what somebody feels and is doing, they stop everything to eat dinner. I told him I was going to eat when I woke up and was even looking forward to it. Tbh, I really didn’t think it was that big of a deal but he clearly felt otherwise. He then admitted he felt like he was being an asshole with the way I reacted and explained how I felt, and I just was like “Well duh, you’re kicking me out over a fucking nap!”
We have not spoken since this incident yesterday. I am supposed to move in with him once he gets comfortable but I have changed my mind, what says he won’t do that if I moved in if I was tired after so got off of work? He’s treating me like a child in my opinion and I’m a full grown man pushing 30, sometimes a persons gotta take a nap… AITAH?
Posted Mar 6, 2026, 3:50 PM UTC