I (f21) do not like to hang out with my bfs (m24) friends. What can I do to still show support, but not be dragged around where I don’t want to be?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years. His friends are nice and all, but when they hang out they like to sit in a circle, drink beer, smoke weed and complain about their lives and talk about conspiracy theories. That is not my kind of scene. Plus, his friends don’t really interact with me unless they are mansplaining the conspiracy theories to me, and then moving on without caring about my thoughts. They basically hang out with each other, and then I am also there.

I could tolerate this for maybe an hour or two, but my boyfriend insists on staying for as long as possible because he “never gets to do this.” (Although he plays video games with them all night every night after work).

I also feel like I cannot totally be myself. I am a silly, outgoing, jokey person, and I like to be cringe on purpose to be funny. His friends are judgy and “nonchalant.” If I even attempted to be myself, it would make everything weird. Plus, I have my own thoughts about the conspiracy theories they indulge in. Frankly, I think they are a waste of time. But if I talked about why they are a waste of time, or seriously questioned their theories and tried to get them to do some serious critical thinking, they would think I am a “know-it-all” and it would also be weird.

So for the most part I just sit there quietly and provide the occasional comment or joke until my boyfriend finally gives in to my requests to leave, usually 4 hours later. And then I lie and say I had a good time, because if I say that I had a bad time and explain why, he will be mad or sad.

If I were to genuinely sit him down and tell him that I don’t like to be around his friends and that I feel like I can’t be myself around them, he would tell me that I CAN be myself around them and that I need to get out of my head. If I were to say “I’ll go with you, but I only want to stay for an hour or two,” he would get frustrated and say, again, that he “never gets to do this” and that he wants to “go with the flow” and just relax and not be on a schedule. If I tell him to go by himself, he is typically happy about it. So lately I have been trying to do that. But, if I NEVER go with him and never see his friends, he would get mad about that.

I am not really sure what to do, as I don’t want to completely isolate myself from his friends, because I know it is important to him that we all get along. But on the other hand, I am seriously miserable every time I have to be around them and I feel like it is draining life from me. How can I show support and try and compromise without putting myself in a completely miserable situation time and time again?

TL;DR - My boyfriend’s friends have lame hangouts (beer, weed, conspiracy theories) and I can’t be myself around them. I find myself miserable hanging out with them, but I can’t never see them again or my boyfriend would be mad. How can I show support without having to put myself in a situation I don’t wanna be in?