How to be patient while my dommes too exhausted for me

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I'll start off with some context, me and my domme have an in person owner/slave dynamic that used to involve weekly visits and play time as well as her having complete control over when/if I get to engage in any sort of sexual act. for the first 9 months of our dynamic everything was practically perfect, I was never left waiting so long to see her that I started feeling forgotten and rejected and was never left waiting so long between sessions/play that I felt unfulfilled. about 3 months ago my domme started to really struggle with her mental health due to be overstressed and overworked and that's when everything started to struggle a bit.

It started off with her needing a one month break of communication with me (though she made it clear she wasn't releasing me from her ownership or anything), I missed her a lot and definitely didn't enjoy it but I tried my best to just be patient and give her the space she needed since more then anything else I just wanted to see her get better and be able to be happy again.

when she was in a place where she had the energy to speak with me again I figured everything was on its way to going back to where it was at before but we've never really gotten back to talking as much as we used to and we've only seen each other once in the 2 months since communication started again.

I really want to just be patient and just give her the space she needs to work through everything but im really starting to struggle at this point. after 3 months of waiting to actually serve her again and 3 months of having pretty much none of what my needs in a dynamic are met it's starting to take a toll on my mental health how unfulfilled I'm starting to feel. I don't want to come across like all I care about is play either (in all honesty the hardest part of all this has just been not talking to her as much) but 3 months of no kink hasn't exactly been all that fun either.

would really appreciate any advice anyone has on how I can keep myself patient while I keep just trying to wait for and support her as best as I can. it's starting to become pretty difficult trying to ignore how unfulfilled I am at this point and I'm getting pretty tired of spending all my time agonising over how much I miss her and the way our dynamic used to be but I don't want to let that get in the way of supporting her while she's struggling.

Posted Mar 6, 2026, 3:55 PM UTC · edited

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