A or B: My neighbor knocked on my door with a list of her favorite spots in the city. I moved here three months ago and mentioned once that I was struggling to find my footing. I don't know if I should invite her over for dinner or just leave a thank you note.

My brother and I moved here three months ago knowing basically nobody, which we knew going in and told ourselves would be fine, and it mostly has been fine, just the regular kind of lonely that comes with starting over somewhere new, the kind where you spend a lot of weekends figuring out where to buy groceries and what the good coffee places are and slowly building a mental map of a city that still doesn't feel like yours yet.

I met my neighbor in the hallway maybe a month after we moved in, just one of those quick exchanges by the elevator, she asked how I was settling in and I said something like "still figuring it out honestly, haven't really found my spots yet," and then we went our separate ways and I didn't think much of it.

I got home from work Thursday evening and she knocked on my door, handed me a folded piece of paper, handwritten, two pages, organized by neighborhood, coffee shops, a bookstore she said she's been going to for twelve years, a farmers market that only runs on Sundays, a park that she said most people don't know about because it's not on any of the apps, and at the bottom she'd written "hope this helps the city start feeling like home."

I stood in my doorway holding this piece of paper for a while after she left, not knowing what to do with it, not the list, the list I knew exactly what to do with, but the fact that she'd remembered, that she'd gone home after a thirty second hallway conversation and written two pages by hand, and I just stood there until she was gone.

A. Invite her over for dinner. Actually sit down together, actually talk, because someone who does something like this probably isn't looking for a thank you note, she's the kind of person who just wants to know it helped, and maybe a meal is the right way to say that.

B. Leave a thank you note. Keep it simple, keep it warm, let her know the list already has three things circled, and leave the door open without making it into a whole thing, because not everyone wants to be made into a big moment out of a small kindness.

The note feels easier but I keep thinking easier isn't the same as right.