Are you more in your soft era (tease, encouragement, slow burn) or hard era (ruin, humiliation, zero mercy)?

Yo, I’ve only been seriously domming for like a year, so I still feel like a complete rookie half the time—scrolling guides, watching clips, fucking up, fixing it, rinse & repeat lol.

These past 12 months tho? I’ve gone full send on both sides and ngl… I’ve been obsessed with both (and kinda drained by both too).

Started off hard as fuck.
Wanted that god-tier power rush ASAP.
So I dove straight into the mean shit: ruined orgasms on the spot, names that made them flinch, 24h no-touch with hourly proof pics, ice-cold voice notes like “you’re literally nothing without my say-so.”
Had one sub straight-up crying real tears after edging 4 days and then I told him to bust in a tissue while I cackled on call.
The high was insane. Felt like an untouchable queen.

Then soft era kinda snuck up on me.
This one shy, super eager boy would get anxious af if I went too hard too fast. So I switched gears without even planning it: soft praise (“you’re already doing so good for me baby”), light teasing (“aww look at you leaking and I haven’t even started”), denial encouragement (“just hold on a couple more days, I know you can make me proud”).
The slow burn was torture… for both of us… but holy shit it was delicious.
When I finally let him finish after weeks he was thanking me like I handed him oxygen. That loyalty stuck way longer than any brutal session ever did.

Right now I’m kinda floating in the middle, still experimenting.
Some days I’m craving the cruelty. love that feeling of making them hate how bad they need me.
Other days I’m all about the sweetness. building them up slow so when I yank the rug they fall harder.

Being new actually kinda rules for this tbh.
I’m not locked into one vibe yet, so I can switch depending on the sub and what mood I’m in. Trial and error, baby.