Do you hesitate to bottom more than you hesitate to top?

I had a convo rn with a top on a hookup app (I'm a bottom) and he said how whenever he's horny he wants to release it in a hookup, but I'm not like that. We talked and I suggested that since bottoms can be in pain, can be passive and quiet while the top does a lot and self expresses, and his movements directly affect them and can put them in pain. Since these are strangers then some tops may bother you or not be a perfectly comfortable match, so you gotta be in a patient mood. While bottoms more likely won't do as much that could bother the top. How bottoming in general creates much more intense emotions and can be tiring, even if it's painless, compared to topping. And ofc the part where it involves pain. And then etc etc, douching and stuff. How some tops were inconsiderate towards me and caused me discomfort in many ways, but I don't feel that a convo before sex can tell me well about how the sex will go. Whether it be aggression and not listening when I ask for less, continously inflicting pain even when I ask not to, causing drama, or just having an attitude that turns me off... And sometimes they do drugs before without telling me and it makes everything complicated bc I don't wanna give them a bad trip so I feel uncomfortable communicating my discomforts clearly and repeatedly.

I'll say for the tops that it seems like a lot of physical activity and could be tiring in the sense of cardio.

So, I was wondering. Do a lot of people feel that they're more inclined to hook up randomly as tops and not as bottoms? That if they're horny as a bottom they may prefer to jerk off more often, and meet up only when they're in a good mood for it. Patient and ready to get intense emotions or possible discomforts. I guess my question would be for vers guys but if others have any perspectives I'll also appreciate it!