PA POV help if possible please

I’m the wife of a PA. About a month ago, after weeks of fighting, I decided to stop bringing up porn or asking about other women and just give him space. I’ve been kind and supportive, and he keeps saying how much happier he is now. I also told him he can talk to me anytime if he’s struggling.

But in the last 5 weeks we’ve only had sex twice. One time I tried to give him a BJ and he couldn’t finish.

Since I stopped asking about porn (because he gets very defensive even when I ask calmly), I’m honestly just trying to understand what’s normal.

He does show some interest sometimes touching me, being affectionate but it never really goes further. I’m also careful not to push because he said before that he felt pressured.

After 10 years of this, I honestly don’t know what a normal sex life for couples even looks like anymore.

For any porn addicts or people who’ve struggled with it: does this sound like someone who might still be watching? I know no one can say for sure, but I’m trying to understand what might be going on. I really just want a healthy sex life with my husband.