Question for the ladies

I'm separated so I'm not dating at the moment because I'm just not ready yet. I've been doing lots of self reflection on past relationship patterns and where I've gone wrong. One thing that my therapist pointed out is I seem to bond really quickly with women I sleep with. AND in the past I would sleep with women I've dated on the first or second date. It would really cloud my judgement and lead me to ultimately choose someone who really wasn't compatible.

Going forward when I do eventually date I want to take it sloooow. My therapist suggested even waiting at least 90 days before sleeping with someone. Not sure if that's what I'll do but I for sure want to wait until I feel like I'm sure they are a good long term fit.

My question is how do I broach this subject? I feel like if I don't bring it up they'd kind of wonder what the hell is going on right? Pretty sure this is not a first date topic (or is it?). Also, what are your feelings on my rationale behind this and how would it land for you if someone explained that to you? Really interested in hearing some opinions on this!