Poor Hygiene

My husband and I have been married for a year and together for four.

He has always had poor hygiene but I feel like he used to at least try. Now it’s non existent.

Doesn’t brush his teeth. He had to get 3 additional teeth pulled with his wisdom teeth due to poor dental health. That was still not enough to make him do better. I’ve tried helping and asking him what I can do to “remind him” bc everytime I tell him brush his teeth, he says “but I’m going to eat breakfast” or some excuse. I’ve bought him an electric toothbrush, always leave it on the counter. I will put toothpaste on his toothbrush and leave it on the counter and he still doesn’t do it.

Showering is another thing

He doesn’t shower unless I invite him to shower with me. He won’t ever just take a shower. He always “forgets” deodorant and smells of Bo. He will wear the same clothes for days. He will get into bed with his dirty clothes. He is a welder and always covered in black grease which gets all over the place.

He hasn’t not had a haircut since July… and he doesn’t shave his face and just has patches of hair. I’m starting to loose attraction to him. I don’t want to kiss him bc he smells like rotten. Intimacy is hard bc I refuse him to give me oral due to his mouth hygiene. He also doesn’t shave down there EVER. I don’t think it’s a mental health thing at this point, he just doesn’t care and doesn’t care enough to even try. I’m at a loss for what to do. I try to help and be encoring but nothing works. We are about to have a baby in a month and I’m terrified that he is going o be raising a baby girl with no hygiene.

I need genuine advice.