Phillip's quiet feminism

I’ll limit this to just the few scenes and what we’ve seen of Phillip in the show so far.

I’m always in awe of how Phillip tracked down Marina to save her from ruin and offer her marriage. He essentially gives up any future chance at love and the freedom of not being bound to a life he never asked for. It was a life sentence for him, paying for the mistakes of both Marina and his brother.

I know his motivations come from duty and integrity (and we’ll likely learn more about that in their season), but don’t you think there’s also a kind of feminism in his actions? 

He explicitly says that Marina(her virtue) had been taken advantage of and stepped in to save her from ruin and potentially even death. That he actively takes part in raising the twins also suggests a strong sense of egalitarian values. He also shows no ill will toward Colin. Even though we know Phillip doesn’t love Marina, Colin’s visit wasn’t exactly proper, was it? Phillip's expressions when he entered the door said that he understood the situation but never expressed resentment. In the books, he is okay with Eloise having a past lover. I tried thinking of another male character in the show who would realistically do what Phillip did, and I honestly couldn’t come up with a single name.

Phillip’s actions aren’t clearly spelled out or labeled through dialogue as things like “women’s rights” or “equality.” His values are shown quietly through what he does rather than what he says.

Meanwhile, 'you know who', who was so condescending toward Eloise, is framed as the show’s obvious feminist simply because his version of it is louder and more performative. Because his ideas are explicitly stated, he’s treated by many viewers as the only “true” feminist in the show, deserving of Eloise.

No wonder shows have to be spoon-feed its audience who miss nuanced presentation. I’ll admit Phillip’s characterization is kind of easy to miss and too subtle.

What do you think?