I 23F don’t think my girlfriend 24F likes me

My girlfriend 24F and I 23F have been dating for a year now

I understand that Im very anxiously attached and need constant reassurance. I can’t shake the feeling that my girlfriend likes me because she feels good about herself rather than liking me as a person.

She’s constantly doing nice things but the way she speaks to me makes me want to crawl in a hole. Like she’ll weed my backyard, do my laundry, make me cards, and make me dinner with a smile on her face. She’s a big acts of service and quality time person so I recognize that and I show my appreciation all the time. It’s her love language.

That being said, the way she talks baffles me. I have inattentive adhd and sometimes I yap passionately or don’t make much sense (I know it’s annoying and I try to be aware). If I yap too much she’ll tell me “I only asked you one question tho” or hurry my point along. If I say something she doesn’t understand she’ll say “what are you even talking about?” And she’s constantly thinking I’m doing things on purpose. If I forget a part of a previous conversation even though I’ve shown to remember most things, she won’t explain it to me, she’ll say things like “just say you don’t care bro”. She’ll make observations about my appearance sometimes like “you’re butts kinda square like you have office chair butt” and if I try to be playful in an intimate way, more often than not she’ll go “ew what are you doing, stop, why are you doing that”

I’ve talked to her about this several times and she says that just how she talks, asks for clarification, and plays around sometimes, and then cites her autism. But it literally sounds so mean. She’s said that she feels like I’m word policing her and trying to change the way she speaks and I don’t know how to convey to her that the way she communicates with me is mean?? Maybe I’m just being sensitive

Actions speak louder than words and she treats me well and does acts that make my life more convenient and easy, and when I ask for reassurance she tells me she loves and adores me and that I’m her whole world.

I just feel like I’m being negged here and I don’t know what to think of it. I would appreciate some insight from fellow Internet strangers

TLDR; My girlfriends actions don’t match with how she speaks to me and I can’t shake the feelings that she doesn’t like me