Dcyf and the state are the biggest obstacle in this whole situation! A rant

I’m fostering my nephew, he’s 3 months old and I have been trying to get his documentation straightened out. Ive been involved since he was 3 days old, I’ve had Emergency placement for months. I’ve not seen a dime from them, I only just got a temporary foster license and they are still trying to get the home study going. I can’t even get tanf because my sister filed a fraudulent claim for assistance despite not having custody of her son and the system locked out the application. we are on our third social worker as they keep changing like its a revolving door. we have been promised all sorts of support and they fail to ever follow through. and to top it all off the court documents, his birth certificate, the hospital records and even his insurance all have different names! I straight up don’t even know who the little guy actually is! it’s a nightmare and he is medically needy. every single time I have to go to the dr with him they have trouble billing insurance because of these discrepancies and they keep trying to stick me with the bill. it’s a nightmare!

to top it off, my sister and the daddy are nowhere to be found. yet the court appointed defense attorneys are constantly stalling in court and dragging the process out ad infinitum! do they just get paid to stall?

is this just the norm? I’ve never been a foster parent before and although I admire the way foster parents are so caring I personally would never consider it if the child was not my nephew.

but it seems like, especially in this situation where the parents are not even trying to be involved, that the system is the biggest problem for my nephew. I feel like I’m just a volunteer for the state and thy have custody but they are incompetent as all get out and just drop the ball constantly and play dumb.

is this normal? it’s driving me nuts