Just want everyones thoughts on this

Sorry for the long read. I just want some second opinion on my situation. Any help and advice is appreciated

So I'm getting to know a potential for marriage. Our families know each other. My parents are not forcing me they've left the decision with me. So I'm 29 and a alimah and he's early 30s.

We started to talking to get to know each other. He asks what phoen I have I say Xiaomi He goes after marriage we will both have iPhone I go i like android He goes fine we'll get samsungs. He is willing to move closer to my parents after marriage.

We started texting but he wanted to talk via phonecall I told him that I'm not comfortable with that as I want to keep things as halal as possible. He agreed and we carried on texting. He would literally msg as soon as I finished work and would want us to msg right till I go to sleep. And if I didn't respond straight away he would '?' it . On one occasion on a weekend he messaged and we spoke for a while. After which I said I need to go now he goes where . I said I need to do out bits and bobs he's goes I don't understand what you mean I said I need to do some chores like washing clothes etc. He said ok msg me when your done I'll be waiting. After some time he msgs with'?' and I reply after a few hours he then continues to msg to get to know me.

We talk about how I can't cook and he goes that's fine we can learn together. He loves to make wraps and that he'll make it for me after marriage. He asks if I have eaten I say yes anvdthat I'm having tea with my family he goes wheres mine I ignore it as i didn't know what to say to that and try to change subject. He sends it again with a '?'. I go insha'Allah after marriage.

On one occasion he says I really like you and always think about you. Do you always think about me do you like me. I reply I like getting to know you he replies good. After a few days we have conversation again and he asks if we can talk in the evening I assume he's referring to texting so I say yh. He says really I was like yh we can talk in the evening. But then I say to confirm we'll be texting. He goes we already do that. I reply I'm not comfortable with calls. As I want to keep things as halal as possible before marriage. He replies ok.

During one of our conversations he asks for a pic of me I reply I don't feel comfortable sharing my pic before nikah. He replies ok. Once during the convo he face times and I obviously don't answer. It rings for a while and then when it turns off he replies sorry it was a accident I was working and accidentally pressed it. I said it's ok and we carry on texting. The next day I see that he had called again in the morning. He didn't mention anything about that one. We spoke about where we wanted to but a house he sent a few links.

Before my birthday he mentions how it's coming soon and wants to send a gift I say no as I'm not comfortable with that. He keeps on saying come on snedbme address I say no. Then later he asks for address as he wants to find houses near my parents. I start to think what if he sends a gift. So I originally wrote no don't send anything. But depleted it and wrote my towns name. He replies why did u delete the msg I go I've rewrote it he resends my original msg and says I should send it. I go I don't feel comfortable and if you send it I won't be happy. He goes I won't don't you trust me. I go I do but it's not what I'm happy with he goes ok. On my birthday he sent me a birthday wishes and asked for pics of cake etc. I said I'll try and night he '?' and I reply in the morning saying I forgot to take any pics he goes in so upset and put 😭 emoji a. Few times. And says I was waiting all night for them and even in the morning first thing I did when I opened my eyes was check my phone for pics. I said sorry but I forgot . He goes its ok don't say sorry.

It came to a point where we were constantly messaging and one day after I had said yes to the marriage I say I think we should reduce our talking now as I feel guilty as it's not islamic. He goes then don't msg then. I apologise if I made him feel bad as that's not my intention he goes its ok I'm not gonna msg then . I again apologise as I felt bad He goes its ok your in the right in your own way I'll just do sabr I say he can msg but not as often . After a few days he messaged again and says I'm sorry and puts the emoji 🙏 for messaging again but I just couldn't stay away. I then go it's fine as long as we only talk a little bit. He mentioned how he has started to pray namaz and that he knows I'm a alimah and that's impressive. He tells me how he feels like talking to me all the time and that he'll try to always keep me happy and then goes will you do the same. I say I'll try insha'Allah.

In another conversation he goes can ask you something if you don't mind. I say yh go on. He says can you send a pic I say of what he goes in just gonna look if you trust me you can send it and your izzat is my izzat now. I reply like I said before I don't feel comfortable sharing pics and wantto keep things halal. He goes ok and then changes subject. We talked for a while and then I go I need to go now to pray he goes yh Isha. I was like no maghrib. He goes oh yh I forgot.

We talked about wedding and he says how he wants some functions in Pakistan and I say that we want the wedding here he goes my mum won't be able to come. I reply I think it's best if we let teg elders decide. Like my parents and your mum he goes. Ok but then asks who mainly wants it her and what's the reason. I tell him we all do including myself. And he goes can you support me on this and have eat least some functions in Pakistan I go I'll ask my parents he goes no don't tell them I go ok. And then he says after marriage you will have to go Pakistanwith me I was like for wedding or travel he says travel I go I'll have to ask my parents he goes no don't tell them what will they think of me. I go ok. But I can't promise anything either. He goes ok.

We talked about my job he wished me good luck on my new job and said that he'll support me with my career after marriage aswell. He asked me where I work and how I dress . I hadn't saved his number He tells me this is how I saved your number how have you saved mine I go I haven't and then save his number. He then asks where my pic for profile was from and then we talked about Pakistan. He asked if I used social media he says can you share Ur accounts. I say ok and shared them. He goes I've sent you mine have a look. I go ok I will do.

He brought a car and goes to me I brought a red one coz u like red and that after he's used it for a yr he'll give it to me and get a new one . I reply I don't really like cars or driving he goes ok. He does say to me you can ask your nan about me and my family . I go my mum tells me that his mum is good he then goes on about how his mum made so many sacrifices for him and that now it's his turn. I simply say I'm not gonna ever stop anyone from sending money to their parents as that's their right he replies thank you. He in one conversation asks have I ever said anything that you didn't like. I go no.