Doing good caused so many problems

I told her (pwBPD) I needed space to keep the platonic relationship healthy and so she could put up new boundaries if she didn't feel comfortable with the current ones due to a lot of our boundaries entering a too comfortable setting.

• Caused her to discard and push me away

She asked for space and I gave her the space she requested, only thing a few small acts of kindness because hey its still a person you care about right? Like returning her favourite comfort items she left at my place, which she thanked me for.

• Caused her to struggle looking at me, actively starting to hate even having to converse with me Start of smear campaign

Told her how I knew she was mentally struggling lately and that I knew a lot of these behaviours were her lashing out due to that. Trying to Show compassion and understanding.

• She says she could not ever be friends with me ever again.

I asked if it was maybe I did something wrong or if I scared her.

• She gave me a teddybear with a note saying I am too sweet and gentle like a teddy to ever do those things.

I love helping, so I help people at my uni with problems during class. I help everyone, so her too. Anytime I help her she looks so frustrated, but not at me.

And 3 times after I helped her she broke down crying when I left to do my own work

Someone explain??