I feel like I'm being chosen for being mid and it's not good.

My boyfriend had told me about a girl he had a huge crush on before we started dating. Let’s call her A. He told me really vivid details even after we started dating, like how he once froze in an elevator because he saw her in tight pants. He also told all of his friends about her, and it sounded like she had a very strong hold on him for years. This just sounded like an intense college crush and I didn't mind.

It has been an year. With him , I am happy. He is the perfect boyfriend.Takes care of me perfectly.Makes things for me.Learns new things to make me happy.Gives me gifts. The bedroom life is perfect, cannot keep his hands off me.

But sometimes I feel that I am just a safe choice.

After we started dating, I once asked him what he thought would have happened if he had dated her. He said that it wouldn't have worked out because she was too rich, too popular, and that she goes clubbing and has a very different lifestyle.

The problem is that all of those things sound like positive traits in society — rich, popular, glamorous, social. And I am the complete opposite. I’m middle class, I’m not very popular, I don’t go clubbing, and I’m more of a homebody. So hearing those reasons made me feel like I’m somehow a safe option.

When I asked why he didn’t say something emotion-related, he said he never really knew her personality, so he couldn’t know what kind of chemistry they would have had. But the whole conversation left me feeling like I am someone who is good to settle with.

Whenever I fall in love with someone, their social or economic background doesn't even come in the way. Ideally, I don't want my partner to look at these things too. I feel that love should be more organic.