I need some advice

I don't know what to do and I need some advice.

Sometimes I feel like my girlfriend might be using me. I’m almost always the one who texts or looks for her first. She does it too sometimes, but very rarely. She never hugs me first either — I’m always the one who does it. The only thing is that when I’m about to leave, she sometimes tells me to stay a little longer.

The situation is complicated though. She went through a serious trauma. I’m a bit ashamed to say it, but she lost a child and it wasn’t really her choice. It affected her a lot and I know she is still hurting.

But I’ve also been through difficult things in my life. My mother died when I was 6 years old, and that affected me a lot too.

I’m trying to help her recover and be there for her, but she doesn’t want help. She always says she will handle it on her own.

I don’t know what the right thing to do is. Should I keep being patient and supporting her, or am I just hurting myself?