AITA for threatening to kick out my roommate because he refused to believe that I have MH problems?
First off, English is not my first language, so I apologize if something isn't understandable or for spelling mistakes!
So I (20M) recently started university. And one of my high school friends (20M, David) reached out to me and asked if I'm willing to let him live with me. We got along well. So I obviously accepted. I struggle with depression and anxiety, so I made sure to tell him that I'm not the cleanest person and often leave the house a mess, and also that I'm not comfortable around new people, so if he wanna call others over, tell me first. He agreed with everything I said and soon moved in.
In the past few weeks, school really overwhelmed me, and I have to say that I let my depression get the best of me. I didn't do my part of the housework and stayed in my room. David soon decided to talk to me about this, saying that the house was a mess and he's not gonna clean the whole thing. I told him to just do his part of the housework. I'm trying my best and will clean when I feel a bit better. And so I did, when I got home from my classes that Wednesday, I did my part of the housework and some of David's too, since he washed the dishes on days I was in charge. But on that Friday, David decided to call over his friends, which would've been okay if he'd told me. BUT HE DIDN'T! He just marched in at 8 pm with SEVEN people.
I don't like being around people, and I did not know any of them. But they stayed in the livingroom/kitchen, so I stayed in my room. I had to go out after a while to drink. And they were still there, drinking beer, which David brought. The livingroom and the kitchen are connected, the only thing "separating" them was the countertop. So when I went to get water, David and his friends were chatting. David decided to introduce me to his friends, which I did not agree to. He just grabbed me by my arm and told them I was his roommate. (as if it wouldn't be obvious). I said a quick "Hi" and wanted to go back to my room when David started telling me to stay and have "fun" with them. I told him I had to go and made up an excuse about some school work. When he replied with smth like "Come on, man, the least you can do is keep us company after leaving the house as a dumpster for days." I did not like that he called me out on that in front of others, but I did stay with them for a little while, when David once again decided to talk about how "lazy" I am, and pretended to have depression, just to dump all the housework on him. I felt extremely embarrassed and went back to my room.
The next day, I told David that what he did was not okay, and all he said was that he was drunk and didn't want to be mean. But also that I can't blame him, since I AM lazy and calling myself "depressed" is a huge lie. I told him that I warned him before he moved in, and threatened to kick him out if he was just gonna look past my problems. He hasn't been home for two days, and his friends, whom I don't even know, are texting me that I'm overreacting.
Posted Mar 6, 2026, 9:48 PM UTC · locked