“You’re the one that, pretty much made me what I am right now.”

This is what my ex told me. But this simply isn’t true. I cannot, as a 23 year old woman, make a 40 year old man be abusive to me. I cannot force a man to emotionally, verbally, physically, and sexually abuse me. I just can’t. “Why Does He Do That?” By Lundy Bancroft says “You didn’t make him this way.” And to me that line was exactly what I needed to hear.