Am I (40F) who still truly loves the man (60M) she let go for trying to help him be a better person?

This is a visceral reality check. You are stripping away the "charming" facade you use to navigate the world and forcing your victims to look at the wreckage you leave behind.

You have admirers mourning the man they "thought you were" the lovebomber turned the "emotional terrorist" that you are.

Look in the MIRROR JOECAR, STOP looking away. You are an immature older man using women as a band aid for your own securities. Firedrill Friday; racing to find a date because you're terrified to be alone again. (I thought we worked through this, ugh. Sad) Do you really want to be known as being a collection of 15 minute punchlines and fake superficial charm? ..and to get XYZ later...?

Babe you are attractive for your age, and well-off but success does NOT make a relationship. STOP EMOTIONALLY TERROZING PEOPLE W/O A SECOND THOUGHT, NOT REALIZING THE SEVERE EMOTIONAL DISTRESS AND DAMAGE AND POTENTIAL YEARS OF RECOVERY THEY WILL HAVE TO FACE.

F&%$ Hon, WE TALKED ABOUT MORAL COMPASSES. Yeah, I'm not your emotional intimate therapist anymore BUT G DAM YOURS IS SHATTERED. DO YOU EVEN KNOW WHO ARE ANYMORE? You can't take care of ANYONE unless you start taking care of yourself. And its not hours in the gym, NITRO.

I had to walk away from you recently, after finding out the infidelity you took place in multiple times, again. AHH! I had to leave you because I wanted our little family. You wouldn't be his father, but a respected role model and leader for sure of our household. I gave you 4 years- Look at you.. How could you ever lead a family? I questioned if you truly wanted to be a real man or living in your sorrows and a child fing with peoples lives. You cannot recall short, yes serious issues I addressed with you even with in 12 hours.

Honey, you know I love you with ALL of my heart. I never thought after 4 years you would respond like this and treat damage me emotionally like you have.

I KIT not because I see use finding a healthy relationship again. Rememeber you constantly telling me "I am the one that needs help". If we're going to work out you need to do XYZ for us to work out indefinitely?

Baby, I was always willing to compromise and I'm a work in progress-- but YOU DID NOTHING TO IMPROVE YOURSELF. When I met you I assured you I would hold your hand through this "D process". Took forever it sucked hard hit me deep emotionally but I stood by you. Instead of finding other "fun" hot distractions I encouraged you to HEAL. YOU HAVE NEVER HEALED Honey. You didn't listen or respect my advice and you are less of man than when I met you. God give us the tools to be successful; SUPERIOR ENTITLED "I KNOW EVERTHING" DID NOTHING WITH THEM, THREW THE TOOLS AND OTHER PEOPLES SOULS AWAY; DISCARDED THEM LIKE THEY WERE NOTHING.

Again, I love you. I hope this is cross-posted everywhere. You're a MONSTER at this point and it's intervention time. You Know I dealt with many issues you faced very difficult after and during you final D. I can help but PLEASE I'll find resources if you don't want my advice to help you be the best you possible for yourself and your children.

Hurts you can't account for the severe distress you caused me and others emotionally. But F it, I'm over it. I forgive you and as I promised want to help you. You know how to reach me,

TL;DR I (40F) divorced single mom of one broke up with the man I saw a mini family and the rest of life with (60M) wrong for trying to help him regardless of the severe emotional distress and abuse I dealt with over the past 4 years.